truth for a cry

Since my childhood I was told, " son always speak the truth, cause it never hurts"..well i guess my parents and teachers could have never thought how the future will be . I thought being honest and truthful will always solve any problem in this damn world...but here after i am now confirmed that my elders had just an dogmatic assertion about this fact of life.

I lied in many occasions and all those were for escaping some sticks from the teachers :-) and sometimes to parents to be with my friends..for everything else i thought i must speak the truth. And what i got in turn??? .... SILENCE !!!

I always thought if I tell the truth, I will always be understood clearly...there is going to be no misunderstanding...and people will understand that i have not hidden my thoughts and feelings. BUT...i am wrong... i dont know how to pretend, how to hide the emotions and feelings, tried for so many years now, but cant, it does reflect in my eyes.

Today something came to my heart, i told it clearly, without knowing that a simple and harmless and an honest truth would boomerang back to me with so much of pain and guilt !! When I shout and try to say that "I told the truth", i am misunderstood... really that is the time i feel so bad, and sad that my parents and my mentors and my seniours always guided me to the wrong direction...the direction of always telling the truth. little did they know that i will follow it from the bottom of my heart and would finally realise their mistake and realise that ..... " truth hurts".

But I will not change from mindset..because I know one day my truth will be known, and who knows I wont be there to cherish it.

Here's to the past

There is no such thing as a broken heart-only a heart that is learning to love more and better.

Realizing that your heart isn't damaged is a relief. But when you're desperately trying to let go of a former mate, and you're in emotional agony, this bit of wisdom is cold comfort. Many say they can feel a physical aching in the chest that can last for weeks and even months. An inability to hear love songs on the radio without crying is common. At worst, those struggling through a break-up can't stand to be alone, and avoid places where they might see their ex. Conversely, they might even arrange to run in" to their former flame.

Why do we find it so hard to release when a relationship ends? We get emotionally attached when we fall in love. Emotional attachment is wonderful when the relationship is in full bloom, but a great source of pain when the romance is over. Emotional attachment is responsible for much angst, from jealousy to endless mooning over the lost love, to an inability to move on. Once you finally break the attachment, you have a pleasant neutrality towards the former object of your attachment. You know you're over him when you can see him with another woman and not feel a surge of emotion. It's not that you wish him ill; you simply no longer see why you were so hung up on him to begin with.

There are three steps you can take to expedite the process of release and be free of the pain. If you start practicing them immediately, you may find yourself getting on with your life and experiencing a heady freedom by tomorrow.

Step One: Release Constantly. Be aware of how often you think of your former love after the break-up. For example, something may trigger a memory, or a friend may ask how the two of you are doing. Perhaps you go so far as to maintain contact deliberately with his friends and family in hopes of rekindling the flame. Your ex is a point of reference for you. You wonder what he would think of your new haircut, or what she's up to. You may torment yourself imagining her involvement with someone else.

This pattern of thinking is not helpful to you, and it needs to stop. You should cease an behavior that keeps you hanging on. There is a magic inrelease. If you are meant to be with her, nothing can keep you apart. For now, you need to disengage. Releasing is not something you can fake. You have to really let go. Letting go may expedite her coming back to you, but you can't do it for this reason. She is not with you now, and that reality must be faced.

How to Release: Cease any behavior that propels you toward her. No more phone calls. Avoid places you may see her if possible. You also need to quit thinking about her and imagining a reunion. Every time you start thinking of her, say (either out loud or silently), "I release you to your highest good. I am free now." As you let go, a strange thing will happen. The Universe will begin to support you. Synchronistic events and spontaneous good will arise to distract you or pull you in another direction. Repeat this release, even if you have to do it dozens of times a day. Because you will be getting positive results, it will become easier and easier to do.

Step Two: Focus on Your Life Vision. It is said that what you look for in another is only yourself. Refocus on your own life when you're plagued with thoughts of your ex-loves. This is healing. As you go through the grieving that is natural upon a break-up, begin to open to a vision of your life as you want it. Include not only the perfect relationship but also your life's mission and most importantly, an image of you at your best-in your power and flourishing, living your life to the fullest. Each time you begin to think of your former love, set these thoughts aside and instead contemplate the vision you've begun to create of yourself. Rather than falling into despair or plotting how to get her back, do something concrete to begin making this vision a reality. Your time is better spent, and this refocusing forces you back into honoring your highest self.

Step Three: Dissolve the Pain. Both of the previous steps will help you handle the pain of emotional release. However, if you have had other wounds in your life, you have built up a large emotional "pain body" that has been reactivated by this break-up. It is time to dissolve this pain body so that you'll never experience such deep loss again. Do this by allowing yourself to feel all of the pain you have stored up inside. Know that tears are healing, a release in and of themselves. Allow yourself to sob in the shower. Embrace the part of you that is inconsolable. Instead of fighting the pain in your heart (and any other physical symptoms), let them be, accepting them fully as part of your healing.

As your pain body is dissolved, begin a practice that will keep you free from storing up more pain in the future. Teach yourself to not take on any new pain. To do this, you must change your perspective. First, know that no one is trying to hurt you. They're doing the best they can, and are simply showing you their limits of their insensitivity. This will help you to quit taking things personally and to forgive.

Secondly, quit feeding your pain. Many of us-especially those we would label "drama queens" (and kings)-need to experience pain in order to feel alive. For others, much of our identity is wrapped up in being a victim. The next time you begin feeling pain, catch yourself. Tell yourself, "I'm thinking of him again." The simple act of noticing how you feed your pain will begin to dissolve it immediately. Next, do whatever is necessary to not let the pain mushroom into a full-blown despair. You may need to distract yourself or remember all the good you have in your life.

As you dissolve your pain body and learn new patterns, your release will go very quickly. You will propel yourself into states of happiness and peace you didn't know existed.

Not only will this break-up not kill you, but it may be the best thing that ever happened to you. The pain of a break-up can push you into a world of magic, of release and of healing that you otherwise might not have entered. And even though you may think your ex is the be-all, end-all, of your life, undoubtedly there is more love, even better love right around the corner.

The Inner Child !!!

Can anyone tell me what the real meaning of GROWING UP is????? Well I know you have hell lot to comment on it. Ok then Let me begin…

I have always wondered, during my 1^st standard, of growing up someday. But that growing up was all about becoming physically big. Never knew that growing up would be so complex (made by we the human beings). I have realized down the years that our concept of growing is so simple..But almost all of us make it so perplex. I know as we become older, we tend to get matured in the way we look, think and act. But now the main point… why do we try to change what we are within??? Why???

I am an adult...Grown up...And I just love being myself being the child at heart. Not pretending and thing about what others might think and talk. There are times when I talk to people of my age or younger to me...And they say you are so kiddish? I really feel pity on them that they have lost their inner child so early!! Ha ha ha!! Poor things... Now you might tell me that there is always a time for everything..ya I agree !! But tell me my friends, stepping into your empty bedroom or bath room and being your inner child… does that make any sense to you!!! Well I am not talking of making a fool out of you, neither do I do it. But when you say “I am not into such irrelevant discussions”...”Its not of my age”… “Those are for Kids, grow up”... I just smile and laugh to the core deep within myself coz no matter how elder or younger you are, how much successful you are financially or in career, you have lost the most valuable asset you can possess till you die – “the inner child”!!

Am I talking crap?? No way..And if you think so then buddy I think you have moved ahead of growing up… you have grown old!!! I know many will refer to their own lives as they are reading it. That’s ok, at least realize it dear!!

So, next time when you are having pop corns and peanuts throw them in air and try catching it by your mouth. No matter where you are. ..Make a smiley on your thumb and talk to it for few seconds, no matter where you are. ..Make funny faces at small kids and make them laugh, no matter where you are… talk about the colours of clothes you are wearing and taste of foods you are eating, no matter where you are. Etc etc …You know I dont mind being called as kiddish, than be a hypocrite towards self !!

There are so many things in life to cherish. Don’t you realize the life is so small and uncertain? Let your build up physique and social status not stop you from being your “inner child”. Life fun buddy!! And while reading this if you have thought at least once that I am an idiot, then I thank you for it…coz that’s serves the purpose. I’m sure you din get me!! ha ha ha ..have fun !!

Regards,

Pandora

We the Idiots !!!

I am back after almost.... ages ..I believe. I am sure everyone is coping up with their lives and leading a life of "AAM AADMI" !! congrats !!

This time again its about us. You might be thinking, why the heck did I use such title?? The answer is very simple. It is because it is the truth.. a truth about everyone of us, that we are the idiots (despite our education and so called "trying to be someone successful" attitude)

I presume that you all might be not so happy with the way I am throwing my words. But I am sorry to say that's the fact. enough of beating round the bush. Lets come to the main point. Recently I was going through a networking site, where I came across a discussion about "whether Dr Manmohan Singh should be the next PM?". The discussion had tremendous inputs from senior employees of big shot companies. To my surprise most of the comment was Against Dr. MMS. Well it can always be, every one has got the freedom of speech.But what I couldn't understand was the fact that the people were coming out with lot of points which were unknown to, i believe almost every one of us (except for the one who said that). All of a sudden began a comparison between MMS and Advani. Gosh you should have read those.

One of them said "ADVANI is less fatal for India" !!! ha ha ha ha !! i asked him, what do you mean being less fatal??? he din answer..probably the truth had come out accidentally. You all must be thinking that I am a supporter of MMS. Well sorry to disappoint you, I do not support anyone, coz the root of every political party is rotten. But tell me one thing honestly, rite now there are two PM candidates..MMS and Advani ...either one is going to rule India (and their pockets as well :-)) ...who should rightly be our next PM???
should it be MMS? a genuine gentleman, very intelligent academically, soft spoken (some even say he is the puppet of the party president) OR should it be Advani who is aggressive, out spoken, BOLD, comparatively less knowledge about what is happening in the world (except for the RAM mandir issue, setu samudram, Hindutwa and all the issues related to religion)...???

You all would have been thinking that why did referred you as idiots and spoke about MMS and Advani....I am coming to that point as well !!1 :-) we are the IDIOTS because, ultimately we did not and would not choose our PM..We did not vote for a leader, rather voted for a party. We did not hope to bring revolution, rather wanted to play safe and get rid of this election stuff. I know while you read this, deep down you you are thinking that I am correct.

We call ourselves educated, superior animal, possessing lifestyles, being successful, etc etc !!! well my friends we are the idiots, and I am the biggest idiot to tell you all these. We haven't used our fundamental rights...actually 99% of you don't even know about our fundamental rights. The reason for writing this is not just for sake of writing. If 1 person out of 100 read this and understand the Value of being and remaining true Indian, then probably in another 2 elections we would be able to choose a leader we want to and not someone we have to. All the best my beloved Idiots !! :-)

Regards,

Pandora

let's Rise....

I sometimes wonder, what is wrong with all the people around. well you all must be thinking what actually i am talking about. Ok let me put it in this this way; how many people around the world do you think, actually take initiative and possess a heart full of guts to step forward and do something meaningful for the humanity and for the world peace???? I am damn sure that you dont have the answer.

Few weeks back as I was watching Discovery channel, i was really inspired by the people who quit all their jobs and dedicated their lives towards saving the endangered species, bringing up the orphan animals etc. I am very happy towards their commitment to do something different , something important, and something meaningful. now let me throw one more question at you. If these weak and endangered species need help for their survival, don't you think we, the foolish, selfish, greedy, with suicidal instincts, also need help ????? Each and every one i see around, it is just the same story; get up, eat, go out, eat, hang around, chat,eat, drink, gossip, have sex, have children, all crap quarrels with wives, neighbors, friends etc. it is all the same stuff happening over and over again. People think of earning more and more money, reaching for the stars, go places, but how many of these so called intelligent people care about building a better society, a better world to live in, and most importantly make themselves better???

I am just a young guy with a heart to make difference, with a heart to fight, but i cannot do it alone. I also know that there are hundreds like me who think alike but keep their mouth shut due to fear and failure. I am appealing and requesting all those to get back to me at the earliest. It all starts by creating the awareness first. I appeal to each and every one across the globe to think about my points once. I will eagerly wait for your responses. I am looking forward to form a network that will work for WORLD PEACE and JUSTICE. Let's Rise mates.

Yours sincerely,

Pandora